I’ve never met someone who liked Valentine’s Day. I don’t think this is due to not knowing anyone romantic. I think it has to do with the fact that Valentine’s Day is one of those things that seems better on paper than it actually is.
When you get down to it, if you’re in a good, rewarding relationship, you don’t really need a holiday to celebrate it. And if you’re not, well, you don’t really need a holiday to remind you of this fact. You might as well have Ferrari Day. The last thing all us non-Ferrari-owning people need is a reminder of the fact that no, we do not have a Ferrari.
One Valentine’s Day I bought twenty-five roses for my girlfriend and had them specially delivered to her during a test. In my entire life, I’ve never had anyone give me a more genuine thank you than her. Two months later we broke up. It turns out, spending $215.23 (yes, I still remember how much I spent,) didn’t guarantee anything at all. Later it occurred to me that I shouldn’t have given her twenty-five roses. I should have given one rose to twenty-five girls.
Buying a Valentine’s Day present doesn’t make you a better significant other. And if you’re the sort that likes to buy gifts, you’ll get a hell of a lot more out of it if you just do it for the hell of it than for Valentine’s Day. And if you’re the sort that absolutely needs a holiday to buy something for the one you love, there’s always their birthday, your anniversary, or Christmas. That’s a minimum of three other chances throughout the year.
I’ve asked friends and coworkers, but I can’t seem to find anyone in support of Valentine’s Day. As far as I can tell it’s just this holiday that retailers have foisted upon us and we’re just supposed to go along with it.
My wife and I have no real plans for Valentine’s Day. And it’s not that we’re not romantic or angry with each other. It’s not even the economy, because it’d be easy enough to set aside some money and get each other something. And despite everything I’m saying here, it’s not some ‘in your face’ to the retail world when it comes to Valentine’s Day. It’s that on Valentine’s Day I don’t love her any more or less than I do on any other day.
If I could, I’d abolish Valentine’s Day, but since I can’t, I thought I’d just throw some thoughts about it out here and see if it resonates with anyone.